Are you worried about what other will think of you and your faith transition? Do you think these kinds of thoughts?
Parents will be disappointed.
Spouse will be devastated.
Siblings will be shocked.
Friends will be distant.
These are all variations of the thought – I better not tell anyone so they still like me.
This type of thinking is a problem. When you are not showing up as the real you, your family and friends don’t actually like you. They like the pretend version of you, the version of you that you are pretending to be.
You are not giving them the chance to like the true you. Chances are they will like the real you more than the pretend version of you.
If you show up as the real version of you, you may give them permission to show up as the real version of themselves.
When you spend lots of energy trying to control others thoughts about you, it is exhausting. I am going to suggest that if you stop managing other’s thoughts you will be in a better position to manage your own and show up as a more compassionate authentic person. Guess what? People really like that type of person.
What type of person do you like hanging around?Do you have that friend who is just a breath of fresh air. It is probably because they are not too busy keeping up a facade. You can be that kind of person.
It just takes some thought work.
Thought work is what we do in coaching. We learn all about our thoughts and learn how to create the results we really want in our relationships and other areas of life.