Mixed Faith Marriage and Tithing

How to deal with tithing?

First, there is no right or wrong way to deal with this issue it is best decided couple by couple. 

Here are some ideas of what work for some couples in a mixed faith marriage. 

(Sometimes we need some ideas to get the juices flowing in order to brainstorm solutions for each unique situation and couple.  Here are some ideas to consider:)

Ideas:

-In a 2 income household each partner pays or does not pay on his/her income. 

-In a 1 income household (note: both work to make this income possible) spilt the discretionary income 50/50 and then the believing partner pays on his/her 50% of the discretionary income. 

-5% paid to tithing, 5% paid to another charity. 

-If paying 10% in tithing is non negotiable,  then the other partner gets to also choose a non negotiable spending category in the family budget that is a comparable amount (eg. house cleaning, vacation fund, etc.)

Keep in mind:

-Tithing is often more than just about money for both people in the relationship. For one spouse, it also ties into temple recommend, eternal salvation, and personal righteousness. It also may be hard for the transitioning spouse to continue to support an organization that has caused pain or injustice.

-Many bishops are understanding of these situations and do not “punish” the believing partner. It may be worth a conversation. This is not universally true for every bishop. 

-You can also pay on line so the bishop is not directly involved. 

-Money is power in our society, you may learn some important things in your marriage about the balance of power. 

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